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By Dr. Jamal Badawi 

[Dr. Jamal Badawi was born and raised in Egypt, and it was in Cairo that Dr. Badawi started his career as a student. He received his bachelors from Ain Shams University (Cairo, Egypt). Upon receiving the degree, he headed for America, and enrolled in Indiana University (Bloomington, IN) where he received both his Masters and doctorate in the department of Business Administration. Upon completing his education, Dr. Badawi began working right away and still is quite active in the Muslim community.
Currently, Dr. Badawi is the director of the Islamic Information Foundation (Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada), which is a non-profit foundation seeking to promote better understanding of Islam by Muslims and non-Muslims.

He is also working in his own field in Business Administration, as a Professor of Management at St. Mary University (Halifax). He is also a cross-appointed faculty member in the Departments of Religious Studies and Management, at St. Mary University. Previously, Dr. Badawi has taught a course on Islam at Stanford University (California). Along with all these commitments, Dr. Badawi is a member of the Fiqh Council of North America, a part of the Islamic Society of North America, a member of the Consultative Council of North America, and a member of the Juristic Council of North America.

Dr. Badawi is a highly sought after lecturer here in North America and abroad. He is an excellent orator on various pertinent topics, especially Islam and Christianity. He is also very active in journalism and broadcasting. He has researched, designed, and presented a 350 1/2 hour segment television series on Islam, which was shown on many TV stations in Canada, the US, and other countries, as well. Some titles of his published works are: Selected prayers, Gender Equity in Islam, Muhammad in the Bible, Status of Women in Islam, Polygamy in Islamic Law, Islam: A Brief Look, Muslim Woman’s Dress According to the Qur’an and the Sunnah and Islamic Ethics.] 

A'ishah narrated: the Prophet(s) never assaulted anyone-neither a woman nor a servant-with his own hands except while fighting in the cause of Allah [Muslim] 

In the event of a family dispute, the Qur'an exhorts the husband to treat his wife kindly and not overlook her POSITIVE ASPECTS (see Qur'an 4:19).  If the problem relates to the wife's behavior, her husband may exhort her and appeal for reason.   In most cases, this measure is likely to be sufficient.  In cases where the problem continues, the husband may express his displeasure in another peaceful manner, by sleeping in a separate bed from hers.  There are cases, however, in which a wife persists in deliberate mistreatment and expresses contempt of her husband and disregard for her marital obligations.  Instead of divorce, the husband may resort to another measure that may save the marriage, at least in some cases.  Such a measure is more accurately described as a gentle tap on the body, but NEVER ON THE FACE, making it more of a symbolic measure than a punitive one.  Following is the related Qur'anic text: 

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women. Because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means.  Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard.  As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next) do not share their beds,(and last) beat (tap) them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance): for Allah is Most High, Great (above you all). (4:34)  

Even here, that maximum measure is limited by the following: 


Based on the Qur'an and hadith this measure may be used in the cases of lewdness on the part of the wife or extreme refraction and rejection of the husband's reasonable requests on a consistent basis (nushuz).  Even then, other measures, such as exhortation, should be tried first.

 b. As defined by hadith, it is NOT PERMISSIBLE TO STRIKE ANYONE'S FACE, CAUSE ANY BODILY HARM OR EVEN BE HARSH.  What the hadith qualified as dharban ghayra mubarrih, or light striking, was interpreted by early jurists as a (symbolic) use of miswak (a small natural toothbrush)! They further qualified permissible "striking" as that which leaves no mark on the body.  It is interesting that this latter fourteen-centuries-old qualifier is the criterion used in contemporary American law to separate a light and harmless tap or strike from "abuse" in the legal sense.  This makes it clear that even this extreme, last resort, and "lesser of the two evils" measure that may save a marriage does not meet the definitions of "physical abuse," family violence, "or "wife battering" in the 20th century law in liberal democracies, where such extremes are so commonplace that they are seen as national concerns.

 c. The permissibility of such symbolic expression of the seriousness of continued refraction DOES NOT IMPLY ITS DESIRABILITY.   In several ahadith, Prophet Muhammad (P) discouraged this measure.  Among his sayings are the following: "Do not beat the female servants of Allah;"

"Some (women) visited my family complaining about their husbands

(Beating them).  These (husbands) are not the best of you;" and"[Is it not a shame that] one of you beats his wife like [an unscrupulous person] beats a slave and maybe he sleeps with her at the end of the day." (See Riyadh Al-Saliheen, op.cit,p.p. 137-140).  In another hadith the Prophet (P) said 

...How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then he may embrace (sleep with) her? (Sahih Al-Bukhari, op.cit., vol.8.hadith 68,pp.42-43).  

d. True following of the Sunnah is to follow the example of the

Prophet Muhammad (P), who NEVER RESORTED TO THAT MEASURE, regardless of the circumstances. 

e. Islamic teachings are universal in nature.  They respond to the needs and circumstances of diverse times, cultures and circumstances.

Some measures may work in some cases and cultures or with certain persons but may not be effective in others.  By definition, a "Permissible" act is neither required, encouraged nor forbidden.  Infact it may be BETTER TO SPELL OUT THE EXTENT  of permissibility, such as in the issue at hand, rather than leaving it unrestricted and unqualified, or ignoring it all together.  In the absence of strict qualifiers, persons may interpret the matter in their own way, which can lead to excesses and real abuse. 

f. Any excess, cruelty, family violence, or abuse committed by any "Muslim" can never be traced, honestly, to any revelatory text (Qur'an hadith).  Such EXCESSES AND VIOLATIONS ARE TO BE BLAMED ON THE PERSON(S) HIMSELF, as it shows that they are paying lip service to Islamic teachings and injunctions and failing to follow the true Sunnah of the Prophet (P).

            Reference:  Gender Equity in Islam by Dr. Jamal Badawi


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