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Love, Marriage and Family
Author Unknown
Where in the world, are the Muslim youth getting their ideals about love,
marriage and family? Are we turning to the Qur'ân and the Sunnah of the Prophet
SallAllâhu 'alayhi wa sallam?
Unfortunately, we do not.
In the Indian subcontinent, we're turning to Indian films; In America and
possibly the rest of the world, we're turning to Hollywood.
Mumbai, a famous mainstream Indian film, features a Muslim girl who falls in
love and ultimately marries a Hindu boy. At the beginning of the film, she is
shown in niqab [veil]. After her family refuses to allow their marriage, the
girl runs away and does not speak to them for six years. At the end her parents
come to her and all are happy.
Hollywood, one of the largest influences in the world, plays a huge role in the
formation of concepts about love, marriage, and family. These films portray men
and women who are 'in love.' And yet, often times the individual they 'love'
will be someone they just saw or spoke to briefly. Suddenly, however they are
willing to lose their spouse, their family, their job, their life, and even
their Lord. It is, therefore, more correct to say that they make these
sacrifices because their desires have become their god. Allâh speaks of these
people when He says:
Have you seen the one who takes as his god his own vain desire? Allâh knowing
[him as such] has left him astray, and sealed his hearing and his heart (and
understanding), and put a cover on his sight. Who, then, will guide him after
Allâh (has withdrawn guidance)? Will ye not then receive admonition?” (45:23)
But yet these very same people that Allâh has described in His book as most
astray have become our example and ideal. In 1998, Titanic, grossing more than 1
billion dollars in sales worldwide, became the most popular movie across the
globe. The story features a young girl of age 17 who is engaged to be married.
After meeting and ultimately falling in love with another man, the young girl
cheats on her fiancé and disobeys her mother. Both the mother and the fiancé are
shown as superficial in order to make her disloyalty more acceptable.
The messages of these films are very penetrating. The most powerful message is:
if you sacrifice for 'love', all will be well in the end. In other words, if you
disregard your religion, your family, your God, following only your desires, you
will be rewarded in the end.
If we look to America, we can see the clear effects of these misshapen concepts.
'Why has divorce reached the unprecedented rate of 40-60%?
The answer lies in the misconstrued definition of what true love and marriage
actually is. These movies feature the wedding as the end of the movie, and thus
marriage is seen as the end of a love story, rather than the beginning.
Does Piety Matter?
What effect does this have on our society, on our youth in particular, who are
the victims of these misconstrued ideals. What is the basis of the "love"
portrayed in these movies?
What criterion will young Muslims affected by these images use when choosing a
spouse? Will they follow the Sunnah of the Prophet Sallallalhu 'alayhi wa sallam,
who says the one who marries for Dîn [religion and conduct] is blessed?
Or, will they base their choice on an empty, fleeting attraction disguised as
“love"? If the youth begin to choose their spouses based on this ephemeral
emotion rather than on Dîn, what effect will that have on the Ummah as a whole?
Will not more families be broken due to divorce and strife? Will more youth not
be forced to cut ties with their families (assuming they do not agree)?
Thus, we should be aware and guard ourselves and our children from this
deceptive tool of Satan. Allâh describes those people who only follow their
desires numerous times throughout the Qur'ân. Let us not be among those who
Allâh describes as most astray and let those not become our ideals.
"Who is more astray than one who follows his own lusts, devoid of guidance from
Allâh? For Allâh guides not people given to wrongdoing" [28: 50]
Source:
http://www.masjidulmuttaqeen.org/article_056.html
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