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Anger Management .. Islamically

 

2/23/2007
By: Dr. Rafik Beekun


Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," (Spielberger). Although anger is a natural emotion, a person may express it in a manner that could result in violence and destructive acts. In fact, as noted in the Qur'an, Allah says:

"And when your Lord said to the angels, "I am creating successors on the earth." They said, "Will You create on it those who will spread corruption and spill blood, although we celebrate Your praise and extol Your Holiness?" He said," I know what you do not know." (Qur'an 2:30)

Anger can be caused by both external and internal issues. You could be angry at a specific person (such as a co-worker or supervisor), or your anger could be caused by your personal problems, such as the remembrance of a disagreement with your spouse or parent. Anger itself isn't inherently bad. When appropriate, it can motivate you to deal with problems, or it can signal to others that their behavior is not acceptable. However, if minor issues - such as someone cutting in front of you in a queue - set you off, or if you're simmering in a constant state of rage, you may have to get your anger under control to pre-empt any violent or destructive outcomes.

Just how angry are you? The Chart below is from the Mayo Clinic. Study the following words describing various states of anger and rate yourself on a scale of 0 to 5 with respect to each word. (You can also get someone who knows you well to rate you.)

0 = Not at all accurate
1 = Somewhat accurate
2 = Moderately accurate
3 = Very accurate
4 = Extremely accurate

Words

Your Rating

 

 

 

 

Livid

 

 

 

 

 

Angry

 

 

 

 

 

Bitter

 

 

 

 

 

Rebellious

 

 

 

 

 

Spiteful

 

 

 

 

 

Deceived

 

 

 

 

 

Annoyed

 

 

 

 

 

Furious

 

 

 

 

 

Resentful

 

 

 

 

 

Bad-tempered

 

 

 

 

 

Ready to fight

 

 

 

 

 

Yelling

 

 

 

 

 

Irritated

 

 

 

 

 

Frustrated

 

 

 

 

 

Disappointed

 

 

 

 

 

If you have several 2, 3 and 4 ratings, you should seek professional help in learning how to manage anger in a healthier and more constructive way.

Study your anger patterns

Anger responses can become habitual. That is, you may respond automatically to a situation that upsets you. How do you express your anger? Consider these questions in gauging your anger responses:

         Do you get angry more often than most people you know?

         Do you use threatening language or gestures?

         Do you get angry enough to hit, throw things or others?

         Do you stay angry for long periods of time (days or hours)?

         Do you conceal angry feelings from others or try to hold in your feelings?

         Do you use drugs to calm yourself down?

         Do you experience physical reactions such as muscle tension when angry?

         Do you get angry and then wonder why you got angry over such a trifle?

         How people deal with anger

People use both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing one's angry feelings in an assertive-not aggressive-manner is the healthiest way to express anger. Suppressing, however, is when you hold in your anger, but the danger is your anger can turn inward on yourself resulting in high blood pressure or hypertension. Calming means controlling both your outside responses (as in expressing) and your inside responses (as in suppressing) through lowering your heart rate and taking charge of your emotions.

It is important to note that sometimes, we take our emotions from work to our home or vice-versa, and as a result, escalate our anger to violence.

In future segments, we will, Insha Allah, look at various mechanisms/processes for managing one's anger both from the perspective of modern psychology and of Islam.

 

Please click here to view a short video about domestic violence in Muslim communities in North America.

Here is an eye-opening article about wife abuse in North America, partly as a result of poor anger management. Unfortunately, it is likely that such abuse takes place in many Muslim marriages around the world, but goes unreported.

Sources:

Controlling anger before it controls you.

Anger: An Islamic Perspective-Part 1.

Anger Management: Learn how to keep your cool.

This article is courtesy of Dr. Rafik Beekun - The Islamic Workplace.

Dr. Rafik Beekun is currently Professor of Management and Strategy and former chair of the Managerial Sciences Department, College of Business Administration at the University of Nevada in Reno, and Co-Director, Center for Corporate Governance and Business Ethics. He has taught at Temple University and the University of Texas. He specializes in strategic management, international management, business ethics, leadership, and the links between spirituality and management. In 1999-2000, he served as a Senior Fulbright Scholar at the University of Mauritius

 

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