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To Hijab or not Hijab

Posted by Habiba Khan under Family, Islam, Life, Personal, Religion, Spiritual | Tags: Family, hijab, Islam |
 

My mom is the kind of person who calls things straight up. No beating around the bush with her. We went to a gathering yesterday and my mom was telling people that their shirts arenít long enough and its not ďIslamic.Ē I was embarrassed, so I just changed my location. My cousinís daughter followed me, and started a conversation. I couldnít pay attention to what she was saying, instead I was staring at what SHE was wearing. A short, short sleeve shirt that was terribly short in length. In my head I was thinking how is she going to pray in it, and worst of all what will OTHERS think when they hear my mom preaching to them but her own blood isnít dressing Islamically. She prayed Dhuhr, short sleeved, and having her hair shown.

I decided to talk to my cousinís daughter about wearing hijab. So I asked her if she had any friends that wear hijab. She told me in Karachi no one wears hijab. Iím a little short tempered when I am lied to so I told her that's a lie, since most of my friends are from Karachi and they do wear Hijab. She told me that she doesnít want to wear hijab because then people will make fun of her. I told her that if your intention is for Allah, then God will bless itÖ I didnít get through to herÖ Iím disappointed, it made me wonder how will my future daughter be. She told me that its not fashionable and its foreign wearing hijab. I told her that sheís in a Muslim country its not foreign, its just foreign to her since sheís exposed to midriffís brought to Pakistanis from Bollywood. I told her if anything its foreign here in America but those who are steadfast in Religion wear it with pride. We reached home, and we didn't talk about it more.

This is where the difficulties usually come in. For many sisters, it truly is a jihad. As long as you are just wearing the modest clothes, nobody has to know that you are a Muslim. Once you complete your hijab with the headscarf, you are suddenly announcing to everyone who sees you that ďI am a MuslimĒ. Here is some advice based on my own experiences.

Wear it for the sake of Allah SWT

Various statements are made about why you should wear hijab, such as for modesty or for protection, but the real reason that we wear hijab is that Allah SWT has commanded it. Whenever anyone asks you, why do you dress like that, thatís the only answer you need to give them.

Allah SWT is the source of everything we have, our existence, our life, our capability, even our goodness. If He ever stopped sustaining us, we would vanish in that instant. If He ever took away what he gives us, we would never have even a speck of it. If we worked for millions of years, we could never repay Him for all that He has given us. And yet He does give it to us, and all He asks in return is that we do our best to obey what He has commanded us. Surely wearing hijab is a very small thing that you can do for Him compared to what He does for you!

Wear it for the hope of Jannah

Allah SWT makes tests for us in this world. He makes things difficult for us. He wants to see if we will remember Him, if we will have faith in Him, and if we will trust in Him. These qualities are what is meant by ďsabrď.

Allah SWT does not lose the work of anyone, ever (see Surah Ali Imran ayah 195). Even if it seems like nobody is paying attention to you or notices or appreciates good things that you do, Allah SWT has seen them, and He will not forget them. Even when it seems like the whole world is against you, Allah SWT is always there for you when you turn to Him. Remember this.

Allah SWT always wants the best for us and in His wisdom He knows why each thing that happens to us is in fact best for us. When it seems like everything is going wrong and life is just one disaster after another, it is easy to forget this and to become bitter and skeptical. Yet we must remember always to have faith that Allah SWT knows best why He has willed this for us, and we must always ask Him only ďMake me pleased with what You have willed for meĒ.

This world we live in, although it seems at times to be the only real thing, is actually fleeting compared to the Hereafter, which is better and more abiding. The trials of this world will seem as fleeting as a nightmare when seen from the Hereafter, and the pleasures of this world will also seem as fleeting as a dream when seen from the Hereafter. Itís our happiness in the Hereafter that we should be most worried about attaining, because it is what will last forever; and itís our suffering in the Hereafter that we should be most worried about avoiding, because it also will last forever.

Allah SWT has promised Jannah to those who remain steadfast in their faith in Him and who trust in Him. The more difficult it is for you to have sabr, the greater the reward for it. So what will it be? Ease in this world, and perhaps the eternal sufferings in Hell? Or difficulty in this world, and Inshallah the eternal bliss of Jannah? Letís face it, the old clichťs are true: thereís no such thing as a free lunch and you can almost never have your cake and eat it too. Weíve all got to face difficulties some time. Better by far that they be in the world than in the Hereafter.

So thatís what you should set your mind to. Yes, itís difficult to wear hijab. You may be rejected by your family or your friends, you may face harassment and persecution or be fired from your job. These are very scary thoughts. But if you have sabr and keep trusting in Allah SWT, this is the path to Jannah, and when you look back on the Day of Qiyamah you will know that it was worth it and have no regrets.

Wear it today and trust in Allah SWT for tomorrow

Sometimes the future seems to stretch on forever and ever and you donít think you can make it that long. You want to give up before you even begin.

So sometimes the best thing to do is to keep you mind focused on what is immediately at hand. Allah SWT will take care of the future. If you have to go out to the market, then concentrate on being able to wear hijab just for this activity and on getting through it. If you do get through it and nothing bad happened, then give thanks to Allah SWT for making it easy for you, and turn your mind to your next outing.

Or if you have to go out to school or work, then concentrate on being able to wear hijab just for this one day and on getting through it. And give thanks to Allah SWT when you have made it, and turn your mind to the next day.

Eventually the outings will turn into days and the days into weeks, and the weeks into months. One day you will realize that you have been wearing hijab for quite a long time and it isnít really as bad as you feared, and Allah SWT helped you get through it. Donít be ashamed. Sometimes it is like this. The most important thing is to have sabr and keep your trust in Allah SWT always.

Wear it and spite the Shaytan

The worries and fears in your mind are the whisperings of the Shaytan. He wants to talk you out of obeying Allah SWT.

It is very easy to keep going around in circles in your mind and to dwell on all the things that could go wrong.

So the thing you have to remember is that you do not need to be perfect in iman to wear hijab. If perfection were a qualification, where is the sister who could wear it??

You must also not fall into the trap of thinking that you should wait until all your worries and fears have disappeared. They never will!

True courage is going ahead to do whatís right even though you are still nervous and scared. So donít listen to the Shaytan. Ignore the worries and fears he whispers into your mind. Tell him that you will not let him keep you from obeying Allah SWT and you will not let him rule your life.

Make the decision to wear it

Once you have come to know in your heart that you must wear hijab, then you have to set a day and

JUST DO IT

This is the only way. Set a day and when that day comes, you have to do it. Donít back down. Donít give up. Do it.

Offer salat al-istikhara. Make duía. Make lots of duía. Do not stop making duía. Ask Allah SWT to give you strength. Ask Him to make it easy for you. Ask Him to help you. He will, I swear it to you. He is always there for you when you turn to Him. Remember how much He has given you, how everything that you have, even your very existence, is due to Him. Remember that He deserves this from you. Remember the promise of Jannah. Remember that remaining patient and faithful through difficulty now may lead to Jannah, inshallah. Even if bad things happen, keep these thoughts in your mind. Donít worry about tomorrow. Just concentrate on getting through today, and leave tomorrow to Allah SWT until it gets here.

Thatís how you do it.

Final Words of Encouragement

I have been wearing hijab since September 1999. I do not regret it. I have never for one instant regretted it. I do not regret it even one iota. Inshallah, you will discover that you feel the same. Even within a few months I came to feel that I would not be properly dressed if I went out not wearing hijab. This is when you know that you have made it!

Never feel that you are alone, or that you are the only one who is scared and worried and nervous. Just about every other sister who has travelled down this road has gone through the same things. I know I have. Your sisters are here for you. We have been where you are. We are encouraging you and cheering you on. We know what it takes because we had to find that in ourselves too. We are praying for your success just as we prayed for our own.

 

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